Bringing Up Goliath

Over 50 reboot! Life after breast cancer.

My New Alliance Revisited & Hopes for 2016

As the new year begins, I want to say thanks for the warm welcome back to the blogging world.  Re-entry has certainly been easier than the initial launch in 2010 when I didn’t know anyone and for that, I’m grateful.

Back then, I wrote an end-of-year post praising social media’s ability to bring breast cancer survivors together.  Other than using Facebook to connect with friends and family, I hadn’t delved into any other applications and had no idea what waited for me once I began sending blog posts into our cyber universe.  Recently, and maybe it’s because I started blogging again so close to New Year’s, I’ve been thinking a lot about those days, new beginnings, old friends and new ones.

I’m not sure why a turn of a calendar page brings old memories or new ideas or even the motivation for change.  I suppose any old day would do, but there’s something about a brand new year stretching out before me.  Fresh, uncluttered of cancer and its fallout.  Just waiting there, wide open with room for amazing possibilities.  Unpleasant things have yet to mar the clean, crisp pages of the days ahead and I so hope it stays that way.  Then I can wonder…

What’s to come?   Will I travel to a far off land?

What new adventures and challenges will the two boys I send off to school everyday, embrace? 

Will doctors’ appointments go my way? 

What will cancer researchers discover this year?

As I stand on the edge of 2016 I probably have the same hopes as most people. Hope that nothing scary finds my family and friends, just good things and if not good, well, than at least not bad. The status quo is just fine in some respects, but, as anyone told she has breast cancer knows…these are things I can’t control.

Some things I hope for are within my control…I choose how it plays out.

I hope to update Bringing Up Goliath by moving it to WordPress.  A bit of an intimidating prospect, so I’ll take all the advice I can get on that.

I hope to write more, learn more about grammar and punctuation.  Many days, I feel my writing skills are firmly planted back in 8th grade.  Forgive me for that.

I hope to advocate more.  All these years after my mother was first diagnosed in 1983 and still more than 40,000 women die of breast cancer every year, with over 230,000 diagnosed in 2015.  WTF?  Where’s the cure?  Despite the sea of pink, the message is still lost. The answers still elude us.

Here’s another big one:  Exercise!  There, I said it.

My goal is to sweat everyday (mostly) (sort of).  My goal is to be fit and not focus on weight, though losing 15 or 20 pounds might be nice, too.  Hey, exercise is always more fun with friends!  Who’s with me?

As I wrote, in that 2010 post, I’m thankful social media lit the way and introduced me to others that understood a breast cancer life.  Breast cancer separates us in some ways from our former lives and those that were by our side then may not understand, may not want hear it all again, or may actually no longer stand by us.  Maybe they’ll never understand how difficult it is to dream of an unbridled future when you’ve heard those words.

So, thank you for reading, sharing, standing by.  For being on my side, my alliance, then and now.
Here’s a link to that old post, My New Alliance, if you’d like to read it.  The words hold true.

Happy New Year!  May your blank pages fill up with wondrous things.  And don’t forget to let me know if you want in on that exercise thing…xoxo

What are the hopes you control in 2016?

6 responses to “My New Alliance Revisited & Hopes for 2016”

  1. Hi Stacey,You're so right about the power of the shared experience. There's nothing quite like sharing with others who really get it, or who are at least open to trying to get it. Like you said, many of us have similar hopes for things we can't control in 2016 – like stability in our families' lives health-wise. And as for those things we can control, well, we just have to do our best. One of my goals is more exercise too. I finally got an app for my phone to count my daily steps. I plan to try really hard to get in 10,000 a day. So far so good. But I know it's only early January! So we shall see. Good luck sweating! And good luck moving your blog to WordPress. Enjoy those precious boys of yours. Wishing you and your family all the best in 2016. And I'll just say it again, so glad you're back blogging, Stacey. And your grammar is just fine, btw! xo


  2. Hi Nancy! Thank you for your comment! Wow, 10,000 steps! I never got anywhere near that even when I'd take Krypto for walks. I bought a spin bike, which I like a lot. It's fun, doesn't seem like exercise and I look forward to riding everyday. So far, so good. Twelve rides in less than 3 weeks. I'm trying. I know you understand how difficult it is to talk someone's ear off and that's the great thing about this community. I'm forever grateful I met you through it. Oh, thank you for the encouragement on my grammar. Coming from you, a writer and teacher, it means the world to me. xoxo


  3. Your writing is so much more professional than you may realize. But putting yourself in is what makes the rest of us want more, want to think, want to feel. (And you make me wish I weren't intimidated by WordPress!)I wish you something wonderful.


  4. Hi Margaret! I believe we have to put ourselves out there. What's the point otherwise? I love reading everyone's stories, although many are heartbreaking. This blogosphere helped me more than I can say. Just knowing I wasn't alone made all the difference. Thank you for reading and your kind words. I'll let you know how it goes with WordPress! You should try it, too!


  5. WordPress is the best! I've been thrilled with it and while I can't speak to moving a blog there since I started with WP, I would venture to say that the WP help desk will get you up and running. It's so much easier for readers to leave comments on a WP blog. I always enjoy your writing, regardless of your concerns about grammar!


  6. Nancy, nice to hear from you! Thanks for stopping by. WordPress! I'm on it, only not as quickly as I want to be. I'll be sure to post if I accomplish the move. Hope things are good with you. I'm catching up with my blog friends and will be there soon. xoxo


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About Me

Diagnosed 5 days before my 45 birthday with Invasive Ductal Carcinoma, Stage 1, ER/PR+, Her2-. This was 9 years after losing my mom to breast cancer, so in a way, I wasn’t surprised. A bilateral mastectomy followed by reconstruction, oophorectomy, and years of Tamoxifen & Letrozole would follow all while being a wife and mom to two young boys. My mission now is to take control of what I can. For too long, I let life happen to me. Time to have it happen FOR me. I hope you’ll come along. These are my thoughts and stories.

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